Hi there. I am Amelie, and I am bald.
I've gone from long princess hair to being completely bald. Why? That's what everyone asks me. I will answer you on that, and the simple reason is because I wanted to try it. There is no bigger thought behind it, though I didn't expect to discover so much about life, myself, and other peoples perceptions on looks. I have discovered how people are in some kind of addiction on how society perceives me and them. Surprisingly enough are some people more concerned about my hair than I am. Some people say not that nice stuff as well, like I look like a gay, I am ugly, more beautiful with long hair, etc. It doesn't affect me anymore because it don't have any significance for how I am feeling with myself. There are the people who thinks I am brave/courageous and that they could NEVER imagine doing it themselves, but it suits me and I look good. Some lovely people also mention that it looks amazing and is as pretty as my long hair. They are truly wonderful people and it's nice to have a bit of ups when you have some hardship times. Then of course there are those people thinking you have cancer. And you can't really expect not to be seen as that and especially when you are a woman. Some people can't even imagine why a woman would cut of all their hair by choice and that is the society view on looks. When I had my long blond princess hair it kinda became an identity for me, and I could hide between it. I even sometimes thought that people were friends with me because of my looks. Not that I actually had any confidence back then, but because I felt I looked like society wanted me to look like, and I always tried to live up to that. That's probably why I was so insecure of myself while I wasn't me but what society told me to be. When I became bald it was like a whole new world opened up to me. I suddenly could see how my friends and even myself was brainwashed by society. Some people even misses my hair more than I do, whom I actually feel bad for! I also saw which friends were open to my "new me" and they are a wonderful support! I realized that there are NO ONE to tell or decide how to look. REALLY. There are no such certain rules to how to look or how to live your life. We all should tribute to change the society's view and attitude to fx how we look! There is also people saying: You've got the face for it, you can wear it" etc. Where I in the beginning thought "YES that is SO true". After some consideration and thought I found out that that is EXACTLY the problem. The problem that we as society makes us masters over who is accepted to look a certain way. We need to get away from that. Is the skinny woman with the fabulous flawless face, more allowed to be bald, than the bigger woman working behind the counter in Woolies? No! They are equally allowed to do whatever they please. Some people believe that if you do something different from the majority, you most certainly do it because of attention. That also leads to people not daring to do as they want or look as they want because they are nervous of other peoples attitudes and commentaries. I will encourage you who has a different/special dream that are not just what is traditional to follow it! Pursue it with all of you heart. You truly are stronger and more resistant than you believe, and you will only figure that out by stepping out in faith, and try it. One of the most important discoveries I've found on this journey as bald is that I've seen and found out how amazingly beautiful I am! It might be that majority don't think I'm something special, but I know I am. Just like everyone else. I've found out that I cannot depend on how other people perceive me, and I can't hide behind my hair. This is the "Real Me". What you see is what you get. I'm not hiding behind anything or anyone, and I will never be ashamed! I am proud of how I look, and it is 100 % my own happy decision. This is to you who don't feel beautiful, you ARE. Society, friends, family, or magazines do not define you. You do! And so does God! xxx The bald head scallywag
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AuthorAmelie Maria Pedersen / Archives
October 2016
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